Eros disappears, neglect envelops the couple and in the long run the intimacy is extinguished: How to run for cover.

How to deal with a sexless marriage

When work takes a lot, you go home exhausted every night and the only thing you want is to rest, you must understand that this routine has almost eliminated sex from your life and in the long run your partner and your partner will get tired of you; unfortunately, in addition to neglecting yourself, you also neglect the other person and her wishes, taking her presence for granted. 

Yet when you think about it, the desire would not be lacking.

a) Routine, the first obstacle to eroticism

The problem is very frequent and for this reason it is important to talk about it without fear. 

Routine, habits, commitments and work can overwhelm sexuality, which is considered less important than daily responsibilities; so you always postpone and with the excuse of tiredness, you end up eliminating sex from your life. 

This dynamic is very harmful, both for the couple and for themselves, as even the sexual energies must find an adequate space in everyday life, under penalty of suffering of body and mind. 

By dint of suppressing or hiding them, you can become insensitive to your own needs and those of your partner, as happened to our reader.

b) If you notice the problem, you are already solving it

The fact that you realize that you have neglected the intimate sphere for too long is already a very important first step. It means that the desire has not vanished and it is therefore possible to find the complicity and alchemy with your partner: you must not be afraid of not being used to it, once the fuse is triggered it will not be long before you see the fireworks !

What to do then? Stop thinking, break the delay and take the initiative (waiting for the other to propose can make waiting times even longer), making the other person feel desired and rediscovering the pleasure of being together even under that person. 'appearance. 

For example, you can start with an unusual and persuasive massage, then creating a soft atmosphere that will help unblock eroticism. 

c) Enhance your uniqueness: sex will also enjoy it

A key factor in taking the initiative is being sure of yourself and your charm. 

The beauty of each of us is unique and learning to enhance it in a natural way will help to make us more fascinating and eager to "win back" your partner. 

This is why it is important not to neglect yourself, alternating comfortable clothes and pajamas with some sexier garments, which enhance your shapes and the parts of the body that you appreciate the most. 

A useful exercise in this sense is to get naked in front of the mirror, day after day, until you feel completely at ease with yourself. 

d) Expressing one's desires: only in this way does the passion start again

Another fundamental tip to rekindle sex is to not be afraid to talk about your erotic desires: what we would like to try or, on the contrary, that we do not like to do. 

Sometimes the neglect of intimacy comes precisely because of the boredom that you try to always do the same things in the same way. 

The embarrassment can be dampened by using cards in which both partners write what they would like to feel, then inserting them in two separate boxes. 

In turn, every day, you take a note from the box of the other and read it in your mind; without saying anything you can start putting it into practice, focusing on the surprise effect. 

If, on the other hand, what you read is not to your liking, you can draw another note or decide to talk about it openly to your partner: there are no obligations, only spontaneity and the desire to get involved!